The spectrum of entwinement

This episode is going to detail a lot of the different types of polyamory across the spectrum, as well as their levels of entwinement:

• DADT/Don’t Ask Don’t Tell: “I am able to date and/or sleep with multiple people, but I do not discuss or ask about the details.” The level of details depends on each individual relationship. This style of polyamory has low entwinement.

• Parallel Polyamory: Multiple relationships run in parallel but do not entwine or overlap. Low level of entwinement.

• Garden Party Polyamory: “I’m comfortable to be acquaintances with my metas and willing to be friendly at group events or hangouts, but don’t feel the need to forge a deep friendship or an independent relationship outside of a partner we hold in common.” Low or medium level of entwinement.

• Kitchen Table Polyamory: Initially based around the idea that all partners and metamours are willing and comfortable enough to sit around the kitchen table to have coffee or a meal together. Metamours may intentionally forge independent friendships. Medium to high entwinement.

• Lap-sitting Polyamory: Polycule is highly entangled. Metamours may forge very close relationships or become romantic/sexual partners. Multiple partners may choose to cohabitate, closely co-parent, share finances or property, and may prioritize making decisions with group cohesion or happiness in mind. High entwinement.

Some dos and don’ts about different relationship styles:

1. DO be open to hybrid styles and creativity. Take some time to think what you’re longing for.

2. DON’T assume that what you want is what everyone else wants - communicate and check in.

3. DO talk about logistics.

4. DON’T be an ass, but also don’t be a doormat. Be open, but advocate for your wants and needs.