Toolkits for non-monogamy

Martha Kauppi, therapist, author, speaker, and educator who specializes in complex relational therapy, sex issues, and alternative family structures, is our guest for this episode. She trains therapists all over the world to work more effectively with a broad range of sex issues, and with clients who are in open relationships. She is the author of Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients).

Throughout this episode, Martha enlightens us about the following when discussing tools for therapists:

• What can get in the way of therapists being able to effectively help their clients who are polyamorous.

• Some of the most common biases.

• How a therapist can assess their own internal bias.

• How a therapist can tell working with polyamorous clients may not be right for them.

• Possible anti-monogamy bias/choosing not to work with monogamous clients.

On the side of the client, Martha talks about the following:

• Red flags when selecting a therapist.

• Good questions to ask.

• Differentiation.

• Individuation (and how it’s different from differentiation).

• Not framing something as a “need” with a partner.

• What makes for poor agreements vs. good agreements.

Find more from Martha at her website, Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and Youtube channel. And don’t forget to check out her book!