Connection first

John Howard, internationally recognized therapist, wellness expert, educator, and author of More Than Words: The Science of Deepening Love and Connection in Any Relationship, which was released February 1, 2022. John has joined us for this episode to discuss his book and approach to using the latest science to help people strengthen their relationships.

Throughout this episode, John touches on the following topics:

• Connecting first and communicating second, particularly when one or both people are neurodivergent or where reading unspoken cues is inaccessible or not a strength.

• The nervous system and relationships and how often the speed of a response is paramount to showing that a partner is understanding and accommodating of your needs, and how it relates to things like long distance relationships, secondary ones, comet relationships, etc. in polyamory.

• Self-awareness, enhanced communication, and tracking as three essential things for polyamorous relationships to function securely.

• Boundaries, rules, and agreements and his take on them.

• What a “culture of practice” looks like to him when developing relationship skills.

• Why it is so important to learn how to talk about emotions with your partners.

Find more about John on Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube. More Than Words can be purchased from any book retailer, but if you buy it from getmorethanwords.com, you also get access to some bonus material!