410 - Fallen Out of Love or Faded NRE? Listener Q&A
Our latest Q&A episode from our Patreon listeners is a great discussion addressing the following questions:
“If you and your long distance partner’s primary love language is physical touch, what are some creative ways to help each other meet that need?”
“My partner of 4.5 years is leaving me to be monogamous with someone he just met. We want to still be in each other's lives in a meaningful way - but the situation hurts a lot and a lot of my good old insecurities about not being good enough are coming up. Do you have advice for dealing with these kinds of insecurities and de-escalating a relationship in general?”
“Have you ever transitioned from a romantic and sexual relationship with a partner to a romantic but asexual relationship? What advice would you give to long-term nesting partners who want to maintain a loving, romantic relationship without sex?”
“What are some tips on handling friends and family who have traditional and moralistic ideas about sex and relationships and are shocked and scandalized by polyam norms?
“I was telling a friend about my wants and hopes about relationships, specifically that I would like to have a nesting partner but still keep separate bedrooms so that if one of us brought home a guest or another partner we wouldn't have to worry about kicking someone out of their own bed, and she was so scandalized! When I mentioned I wasn't going out having hookups constantly, she tried to 'reassure' me that she already understood I am 'not that sort of person.’”
“How do you help someone identify what “being in (romantic) love” feels like when they are questioning if that is what they still feel or if they have “fallen out of love” in a relationship after NRE has faded ? The narratives of “you just know” and “they become your world” don’t seem right.”
“How do you navigate a relationship where you would consider the person to be a romantic partner and they consider you to be a friend (but different than their other friends)?”
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