Welcome, Irene!

We’re excited to welcome Irene Morning, MS, to the show for today’s episode to discuss her book, The Polyamory Paradox. Irene is a somatic pleasure coach, intimacy educator, polyamorous human, and author of the bestselling book, The Polyamory Paradox: Finding Your Confidence in Consensual Non-Monogamy. Through her coaching, workshops, writing, and in-person sex-positive events, she guides others in creating relationships that fulfill their unique needs and desires. Both her work and personal life revolve around the belief that centering our own pleasure is not only healing on an individual level, but also in service of interdependence and collective well being.

Some of the topics we’re going to explore with Irene during this episode are:

• Her somatic pleasure coaching practice and how it differs from other types of coaching.

• What made her decide to write The Polyamory Paradox and who it’s for.

• Discussing her tumultuous and painful journey into polyamory and how it mirrored a lot of cycles of abuse, yet was not abusive.

• How not asserting her own wants created pain for her partner.

• Why is pleasure such a focus in her work?

• “The window of tolerance.”

• Opening up relationships as slowly as one partner wants or needs, and discussing whether that effectively holds the other partner back and how to do this without restricting others’ autonomy and gauge if they’re making progress or not.

• Which emotions that we might mistake as jealousy that are actually something else (such as feeling disrespected, left out or rejected, disappointment, being gaslit or mistreated, envy, or fear).

• Reconnection rituals.

• What is the ‘polyamory paradox?’

Find more about Irene on Instagram at @irene_morning or on her website, where you can also get her book (which is also available on Amazon)!