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507 - Putting Your Values into Action with Jaime Gama

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Welcome Jaime!

We’re excited to be joined by the lovely Jaime Gama from @gotitasdepoliamor on Instagram. Jaime is a psychologist with a master's in Gestalt psychotherapy who specializes in ethical relationships, both monogamous and non-monogamous. He uses his account to share his experience and journey deconstructing the ways he connects with his partners. At the moment he offers webinars, on-line sessions and is working on writing his first book.

Some of the topics and questions we discuss with Jaime during this episode are:

  1. Not identifying as polyamorous, despite running Gotitas de Poliamor.

  2. What would you say to people who are having a hard time finding the write label or word for the type of relationships they want to align with?

  3. Is there one common question or topic request that you get from people that you’re sick of?

  4. You prefer to use the term “ethical relationships” to “ethical non-monogamy.” Why is that?

  5. Was there a particular moment when you realized you wanted to abandon the term ENM?

  6. What do you consider to be the four fundamental pillars of ethical relationships?

  7. What’s your take on the opinion that “ethical” should be dropped altogether?

  8. What’s been your experience dating people new to non-monogamy?

  9. Have you had any positive experiences dating newbies?

  10. What is one thing you wish you could implant into the brain of anyone who is new to non-monogamy but considering it?

  11. Your master’s thesis research focused on masculinity, homosexuality, and polyamory, and you found that community carries a lot of weight. Tell us more about that. 

  12. What are the ways that you’ve experienced community supporting your own journey?

  13. You primarily produce content for the Spanish speaking non-monogamous community. Have you seen any major cultural differences play out between the Spanish-speaking non-monogamous world and the English-speaking non-monogamous world? Are there things that seem to be universal?

  14. What are the things you wish for the non-mono community as a whole? 

  15. Where would you like to see us all heading in the future? 

  16. What keeps you coming back to this work?

Find more about Jaime on Instagram @gotitasdepoliamor, or at www.gotitasdepoliamor.com.