The dating game

Michael Kaye, head of communications at the popular dating app OkCupid, has graciously joined us for this episode to give his insight on some of our questions regarding online dating in general as well as online dating for non-monogamous folks. Some of the topics and questions he tackles during this episode include:

• Advice from him for those getting into online dating for the first time in a while (or ever).

• Changes in dating trends during the pandemic and what makes an “excellent dater.”

• Advice for those who feel discouraged with online dating.

• “Cuffing season” and the data that backs it up, as well as breakup season.

• LGBTQ dating trends.

• Surveying OkCupid’s data from non-monogamous users.

• Some specific questions from our patrons about OkCupid having more expressive relationship categories and only being able to select other queer people to view.

For those of us who feel as though we see the same people on the dating apps again and again with no one new, Michael suggests updating your profile just with a few different sentences to “trick” the app into thinking you’re a newer user—this will allow you to view a wider selection of potential matches!

OkCupid publishes all of the data they glean from the questions users answer on their app. They use this data to predict dating trends and to figure out what their users want, but for anyone who wants to look at the data they collect, visit their Dating Data Center!

Find more of Michael on Instagram at @MichaelKayePR or on Twitter at @OkCupid, and be sure to listen to the full episode to learn how to take advantage of a free premium OkCupid membership as a Multiamory listener!