Modern dating

Damona Hoffman, the Resident Love Expert of The Drew Barrymore Show and OkCupid's Official Dating Coach, has graciously joined us to talk about modern dating for this episode. Damona is the host of the long-running podcast Dates & Mates, which has just started airing its 10th Season. She is also an advice columnist for the LA Times and a writer on dating and relationships for the Washington Post. Damona can frequently be seen on Access Daily sharing the latest dating news.

Throughout this episode, Damona tackles the following questions:

1. You’ve been a dating coach for several years  - have you seen the problems or frustrations people run into change over the years, or is it all varieties on the same theme of “why isn’t he texting me back?”

2. When we had Michael Kaye from OKC on the show, he mentioned “Singles Sunday” or “Dating Sunday,” which will have been the Sunday just before this episode comes out. What is that about? Is that a particularly good time to be on an app, or is the best strategy to avoid crowds at the Black Friday sale?

3. We have a lot of people who complain about dating app fatigue. Other than just taking a break, what’s your advice for avoiding fatigue?

4. What would you say to people who feel hesitant or resistant to using apps for dating? Is it viable to never go on a dating app ever?

5. Is there any popular dating advice out there that you personally completely disagree with? Any hot takes?

6. When you are feeling on the fence about someone after the first or second date, do you recommend to continue to getting to know them? And if so, how do I do this without feeling like I’m leading them on while I’m on the fence about them?

7. What would you say about the so-called dating marketplace imbalance. That is, if a cis man is heterosexual, he is at a disadvantage in the dating pool, and that cis straight and bi women have an easier time finding a partner, perhaps especially if they are non-monogamous.

Find more about Damona on her website, or on social media at @damonahoffman. Also, check out her free profile starter kit for dating apps!