This week, our Patreon question is:

For context, my partner (32M) and I (25F) are both currently polysaturated at 1 after going through some tough life stuff.

For the last 6 months it's been feeling like there's been a lack of non-sexual interactions between myself and my partner. I feel as though I've tried to keep up with doing these myself because I genuinely enjoy it - things like random gentle touching, offering to make breakfast, just generally be considerate in ways that's more than just being friends. But my partner doesn't seem to be innately the same way - and although did these things early on, it quickly dwindled.

When he attempts to initiate sex, it's often after generally having very limited interaction with each other so far that day.

His "initiation" typically includes things like greeting me with objectifying comments, touching only areas like my butt or chest, showing me he's hard by pressing himself on me, and making other verbal insinuations.

Going from virtually no interaction or seemingly platonic interaction and straight into a very sexual interaction like that, almost turns me off even more and especially couple with the way that it takes a while for him to actually back off when I say no.

But I've noticed that times there IS more "lovey" interaction sprinkled throughout the day, tiny acts of service, non-sexual but nice touching, etc., that I feel MUCH more inclined to respond well to his initiations.

I have had conversations with him about this and will continue to, but there doesn't seem much change or consistent change.

I truly feel like the phrase "foreplay starts at breakfast" really hits home for me as one aspect of my issues with his initiation style, but I'm having a lot of trouble actually coming up with concrete examples of what this can look like. I'm hoping that being able to better define it can help me better identify my own needs and also better communicate those needs to him.

Two eggs with a side of foreplay please