510 - Don't Let Envy Ruin Your Relationship
510 - Don't Let Envy Ruin Your Relationship

Today we're talking about the green-eyed monster...envy! We've talked a lot about jealousy in the past, but this time we're focusing on envy, which is often conflated with jealousy. Sometimes we feel inadequate or resentful in our relationships, but it doesn't quite feel like jealousy. You might be dealing with envy! For today's episode we're going to talk about the difference between envy and jealousy in non-traditional relationships, why you might be feeling envious, and as always, and as always, we'll discuss some practical tools for transforming envy into personal growth and stronger connections.

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509 - Frank Smith Gets Real about Queer Polyamory
509 - Frank Smith Gets Real about Queer Polyamory

Today we're welcoming back writer, director, actor, and producer Frank Arthur Smith to talk about non-monogamy in queer media.

Frank is a queer writer/director/actor/producer originally from Boston. He was most recently staffed on children's comedy OCEAN EXPLORERS on YouTube. Previously, he wrote on Disney Channel’s RAVEN’S HOME. He also starred in Episode 5 of Emmy Award-nominated TIDYING UP WITH MARIE KONDO on Netflix.

His LGBTQIA+ comedy series, OPEN TO IT, in which he stars, writes, directs, and Executive Produces, debuted at Outfest, the largest queer film festival in the world, and received over 1 million views online, before being acquired by OUTtv, a Canadian cable channel available in over 15 million homes, and US streaming service with over 1 million subscribers. The show can be seen worldwide at opentoitseries.com and features RUPAUL'S DRAG RACE stars Manila Luzon, Laganja Estranja, Honey Davenport, and Pandora Boxx, as well as Deaf drag queen influencers, Deafies in Drag.

Find Frank on TikTok and Instagram @frank.arthur.smith and check out his comedy series’ Instagram @opentoitseries!

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508 - Four Steps to Stop a Conflict Spiral
508 - Four Steps to Stop a Conflict Spiral

Today we're discussing conflict spirals, or what happens when you're arguing with a partner and it's no longer productive, you're exhausted, and you just want things to be over with. We're talking about how to stop that spiraling conflict, soothe yourself, and get back to a place where you can co-regulate with your partner instead of getting trapped in the same spiral again and again.

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507 - Putting Your Values into Action with Jaime Gama
507 - Putting Your Values into Action with Jaime Gama

Today we're joined by Jaime Gama of the popular Instagram account Gotitas de Poliamor. We'll be discussing non-monogamy, identity, community, and much more with him.

Jaime is a psychologist with a master's in Gestalt psychotherapy who specializes in ethical relationships, both monogamous and non-monogamous. He uses his account to share his experience and journey deconstructing the ways he connects with his partners. At the moment he offers webinars, on-line sessions and is working on writing his first book. Find more about Jaime at www.gotitasdepoliamor.com, or follow him on Instagram @gotitasdepoliamor.

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506 - How do I prioritize my career and my relationships? Listener Q&A
506 - How do I prioritize my career and my relationships? Listener Q&A

Today we're back with a Q&A episode! We're answering some questions from our listeners and talking about balancing relationships and a burgeoning career, asking a partner to be more visible in their life, and how to reconcile with decisions others make that affect you.

If you want a question of yours answered on one of our future Q&A episodes, consider becoming a member of our community!

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504 - Decolonizing Love with Millie and Nick
504 - Decolonizing Love with Millie and Nick

For today's episode, we're joined by Millie and Nick from Decolonizing Love for a spectacular conversation about polyamory, intersectionality, colonialism, hierarchy, and much, much more.

Millie Boella (she/they) and Nick (he/him) are a polyamorous couple from Toronto, Canada, who have been together for 14 years. Millie, of mixed Kenyan and diverse heritage, has always embraced polyamory, influenced by her Maasai background. She founded the Toronto Non-Monogamous BIPOC group in 2017 and is a professional writer. Nick, of Italian and Greek descent, is a healthcare consultant. He works on various community causes, including projects that help men unlearn toxic masculinity. In 2021, they co-founded Decolonizing Love, advocating for polyamory through a decolonial lens. Their work aims to make polyamory accessible and intersectional.

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503 - Normalizing Non-Monogamy: Bru + Mark
503 - Normalizing Non-Monogamy: Bru + Mark

For this week's episode, the Multiamory crew is taking a much-needed break, and featuring episode 308 of Normalizing Non-Monogamy: Bru + Mark! Hosts Emma and Fin talk with Bru and Mark about their guests' relatively recent journey of opening up their long partnership.

For Emma and Fin, life is all about seeking out adventure, embracing the chaos, and meeting amazing people along the way. They are in their mid thirties, met in seventh grade, and have been together since their freshman year of college. A year or so into their relationship it was obvious that exploring everything life had to offer was part of who they were as individuals, and as a team. They were very young at the time and neither had really experienced the world of dating, so they created a way to explore aspects of the dating world without ending their relationship, through non-monogamy. Fast forward about 11 years and they decided to start a weekly podcast called Normalizing Non-Monogamy in 2018. They absolutely love meeting new people and hearing their stories and through this podcast they get to interview people from all over the world who are exploring non-monogamy on their own terms. The hope is that if they can get enough of those stories out into the world that it will provide a resource for anyone who is considering non-monogamy. They also want to show that non-monogamy is more common than most people think and that it can be done in an ethical and consensual way. Overall, the mission is to inspire people to embrace their true selves so that, together, we can open minds and live authentically without shame.

Find more about them and Normalizing Non-Monogamy at https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/!

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502 - Help! My relationship is going TOO well! Listener Q&A
502 - Help! My relationship is going TOO well! Listener Q&A

Welcome to another Q&A episode where we answer some questions posed by our lovely listeners! Today we're discussing different levels of sexual attraction among various partners, what to do when a relationship seems like it's going TOO well, and how to communicate to a partner that you want to shift away from hierarchy.

If you want your question answered on a future episode, consider joining our awesome community at multiamory.com/join!

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501 - Are you having sex or is sex having you? A conversation with Dan Savage
501 - Are you having sex or is sex having you? A conversation with Dan Savage

Dan Savage joins us today to talk about love, sex, non-monogamy, commitment, and much, much more!

Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, a podcaster, an author, and has appeared on numerous television shows.

“Savage Love,” Dan’s sex-advice column, first appeared in The Stranger, Seattle’s alternative weekly, in 1991. The column is now syndicated worldwide. Dan has published seven books.

In 2006, Dan launched the Savage Lovecast, a weekly, call-in, sex advice podcast. It has 600,000 unique monthly downloads and 20,000 paying subscribers for premium “Magnum” content. It ranks consistently in the top ten Sexuality podcasts on Apple Podcasts.

He created and curates the HUMP! Film Festival, a sex-positive showcase of dirty short films, now in its 18th year. HUMP! has become a national phenomenon selling tens of thousands of tickets, screening in over 50 cities across the United States and Canada and streaming worldwide.

In 2010 Dan and his husband Terry Miller founded the It Gets Better Project. The IGBP has gathered tens of thousands of videos from people all over the world offering hope to LGBT kids. The book—It Gets Better: Coming Out, Overcoming Bullying, and Creating a Life Worth Living—was a New York Times best seller. In 2012 the It Gets Better Project was awarded an Emmy.

Dan’s graphic, pragmatic, and humorous advice has changed the cultural conversation about sex, monogamy, gay rights, religiosity, and politics.

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499 - Post-Nonmonogamy: Navigating Life After Polyamory with Andrea Zanin
499 - Post-Nonmonogamy: Navigating Life After Polyamory with Andrea Zanin

Today we're joined by writer Andrea Zanin to talk about their upcoming books. Andrea Zanin, MA, is a white, nonbinary, middle-aged queer whose writing focuses on queer sex, nonmonogamy and BDSM/Leather. They have written for the Globe and Mail, The Tyee, Bitch, Ms., Xtra, IN Magazine, Outlooks Magazine and the Montreal Mirror. Their scholarly work, fiction and essays appear in a variety of collections, and they are the author of Post-Nonmonogamy and Beyond and, with Eve Rickert, the co-author of More Than Two, Second Edition: Cultivating Nonmonogamous Relationships with Kindness and Integrity. Andrea blogs sporadically at sexgeek.wordpress.com, where they created the ten rules for happy nonmonogamy and coined the term “polynormativity.”

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498 - Is it possible to limit the expansion of our feelings for others? Listener Q&A
498 - Is it possible to limit the expansion of our feelings for others? Listener Q&A

Today's episode is another Q&A! We'll be answering Patreon questions about whether or not your first relationship should be a non-monogamous one, dealing with a partner's NRE with someone else, and if it's possible to limit one's expansion of feelings for another.

If you'd like your question answered on a future Q&A episode, consider becoming a member of our Patreon community!

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496 - Trying Monogamy After Non-Monogamy with Rachel Krantz
496 - Trying Monogamy After Non-Monogamy with Rachel Krantz

Rachel Krantz is back to talk about her experience with monogamy after being non-monogamous. Rachel is a journalist and the author of OPEN: One Woman's Journey Through Love and Polyamory. She was the namer of Bustle, and one of its three founding editors. She’s the recipient of the Robert F. Kennedy Journalism Award, the Investigative Reporters and Editors Radio Award, the Peabody Award, and the Edward R. Murrow Award. You can follow her on Instagram @rachelkrantz, and subscribe to her podcast, Help Existing, wherever you get your podcasts.

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495 - Anger & Anxiety: The Unexpected Couple Ruining Your Relationships
495 - Anger & Anxiety: The Unexpected Couple Ruining Your Relationships

For today's episode, we're examining anger from a slightly different perspective: how it relates to anxiety and vulnerability in your relationships. We're going to be talking about the science behind why anger and anxiety are often closely linked, debunking common myths about what these emotions look like in relationships, and giving you practical tools to break free from the cycle of reactivity.

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493 - But What if I Want the Relationship Escalator?
493 - But What if I Want the Relationship Escalator?

Today, we're discussing the relationship escalator, which is often criticized in non-monogamous spaces. However, some non-monogamous folks may want the same milestones and journey that the relationship escalator provides, so today we're talking about what can happen if you're someone who wants to move up the escalator with a partner or partners. We'll be going over some pros and cons of the relationship escalator, some research about how quickly people tend to escalate in relationships, and how to navigate your journey if the relationship escalator is something you want in your life.

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492 - Workaholics Aren’t Actually More Productive
492 - Workaholics Aren’t Actually More Productive

Today we're diving into workaholism and its effect on relationships. A lot of us in western (American) culture pride ourselves on working hard and never taking a break, but how effective is this mentality, really? Often, things like our relationships may suffer without a healthy work/life balance, and so today we'll be discussing why some of us work so hard and so much, some habits to look out for that may be causing more harm than good, and how to shift workaholic tendencies so your relationships can thrive.

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PodcastMultiamoryworkaholism, workaholics, productivity, work/life balance