498 - Is it possible to limit the expansion of our feelings for others? Listener Q&A
Today’s questions
For today’s Q&A episode, the questions posed by our listeners that we’re discussing are:
“Hi! I have recently gotten into my first relationship ever and my partner is poly. All my friends are telling me that it's a bad idea and I should try being in a "normal" (monogamous) relationship 1st. Although I'm nervous I really connect with having the freedom of connection, I haven't tried it yet and think that this is a great idea/learning experience and am willing to put in the work to deconstruct mono conditioning.
p.s Love your podcast thank you so much for doing what you do!!!!
–worry wombat”
“I'm not really new to polyamory, but I've never experienced a partner falling for someone new while we're together. I'm nervous about the honeymoon phase or "NRE" destabilizing me. I think that seeing my partner so amorous and horny for someone else and not getting that same degree of attention will be one of my biggest polyam challenges.
– Hesitant Honey”
“My partner and I opened up last year our previously monogamous relationship of 7 years. We decided to go very slow and explore how far we want to take it. So we basically agreed on romantic exclusivity allowing for a couple of dates a month with people outside of our area, and to compromise on stepping back if our feelings kept on growing. So far it’s been great! But it’s also been easy because the people we’ve met live very far and other circumstances. I’ve been questioning if it is realistic to think that it is possible to set boundaries on one’s feelings or even fair for the third person. I’d love to hear your thoughts on that, specially from Emily as she has practiced various types of non monogamous relationships from what I gathered. Thank you so much!
–Baby poly in Barcelona”
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