504 - Decolonizing Love with Millie and Nick
Welcome, Millie and Nick!
For today's episode, we're joined by Millie and Nick from Decolonizing Love for a spectacular conversation about polyamory, intersectionality, colonialism, hierarchy, and much, much more.
Millie Boella (she/they) and Nick (he/him) are a polyamorous couple from Toronto, Canada, who have been together for 14 years. Millie, of mixed Kenyan and diverse heritage, has always embraced polyamory, influenced by her Maasai background. She founded the Toronto Non-Monogamous BIPOC group in 2017 and is a professional writer. Nick, of Italian and Greek descent, is a healthcare consultant. He works on various community causes, including projects that help men unlearn toxic masculinity. In 2021, they co-founded Decolonizing Love, advocating for polyamory through a decolonial lens. Their work aims to make polyamory accessible and intersectional.
On this episode, they tackle the following questions:
Can you each talk about your history with non-monogamy and how you came to realize it was the relationship structure for you?
What is it like to be one of the biggest non-monogamy content creators out there?
Do you get a lot of pushback from people for the content on your channel? Do you feel like it comes mainly from people outside of the non-monogamous community or from within?
What does decolonizing love mean to you? Why is it important to decolonize love?'
Do you see polyamory as a political choice? What does it mean to be political in your relationship choices?
What steps can people take to be more political in their relationships?
We tend to take a stance that monogamy can also be a relationship choice that is valid if it is done as a conscious choice. Do you agree or disagree with that? Do you think monogamy is always a choice of oppression?
What are some of your favorite videos that you’ve created?
What goes into making a video? Why was it important to you to act out a scene for your videos as opposed to just talking about the topic?
Part of your content is educational for newbies to the polyamory world. What advice would you give people who are just starting out on their non-monogamous journey?
What is next for you? Where can people find more of your work?
Visit Decolonizing Love’s website to learn more about Millie, Nick and their work!