Today we're bringing back a popular episode on relationship conflict. We're talking about three different patterns that show up in conflicts, how to recognize which one is showing up for yourself, and discuss some ways to disrupt the pattern and create new choreography with your partner(s).

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This week we're beginning a two-part discussion about unhealthy relationship patterns and why we sometimes tend to repeat them, sometimes even when we know they're unhealthy. We're going to be exploring why we do this, how it relates to past trauma and attachment theory, and attempt to answer the question, “Do people really have a type?”

Part of being a human is learning how to recalibrate your mind when transitioning from one situation to another. This can be especially difficult for polyamorous people changing from one partner to another, so this episode helps outline some ways to make the switch mentally when engaging in different tasks or social situations.