We're back with another Q&A episode to answer some more listener questions! Today we're discussing open, honest conversations with non-romantic connections, feeling undesirable, romantic repulsion following multiple breakups/de-escalations, how to be a good hinge partner when starting new relationships, and more!
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Author and professor Carrie Jenkins joins us this week to discuss her newest book, Sad Love: Romance and the Search for Meaning, and some of the principle themes in it. She goes into detail about questioning the relationship between happiness and love, eudaimonic love, "lovecrafting," and more.
Carrie Jenkins is an author and philosophy professor who lives and works on the unceded territories of the Squamish, Tsleil-Waututh, and Musqueam First Nations. Carrie’s first novel, Victoria Sees It, was published in 2021 by Penguin Random House Canada, and shortlisted for the Frye Academy Award XIII and the Ethel Wilson Fiction Prize. Her non-fiction books include What Love Is and What It Could Be (Basic Books, 2017) and Sad Love: Romance and the Search For Meaning (Polity, 2022).
Today we’re having a round table discussion with our friend Ben Day about six relationship behaviors that most people think are normal (or even romantic) that are actually toxic and destructive to your relationships. We also get deep and share some of our personal struggles with these behaviors in our own pasts.
Read MoreMultiamory is very excited to sit down with philosopher Carrie Jenkins, author of the newly released book What Love Is and What It Could Be. Carrie has been polyamorous for a number of years, and after having her relationships accused of not embodying "real love," she was inspired to get to the bottom of the age old question: what is love? In this episode, we deconstruct our preconceived ideas of love and commitment, and also why it is important for people in non-monogamous relationships to examine the nature of romantic relationships.
Read MoreThe Multiamory West Coast tour brought the crew to Seattle on February 14th. On this very traditional romantic holiday, we spent some time discussing how people in non-traditional relationships can use this as a time to reflect on the unique qualities each relationship and each partner brings to the table. We also discuss the slightly creepy origins of Valentine's Day itself.
Read MoreMost of us enjoy feeling special, particularly to our romantic partners. In traditional relationships, one's specialness is closely linked to exclusivity. You are the person I choose to be monogamous with, therefore you are #1 special person in my life! But when you have multiple partners, this thinking gets turned on its head. This week we discuss how to maintain a sense of specialness in each of your relationships.
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