510 - Don't Let Envy Ruin Your Relationship

Today we're talking about the green-eyed monster...envy! We've talked a lot about jealousy in the past, but this time we're focusing on envy, which is often conflated with jealousy. Sometimes we feel inadequate or resentful in our relationships, but it doesn't quite feel like jealousy. You might be dealing with envy! For today's episode we're going to talk about the difference between envy and jealousy in non-traditional relationships, why you might be feeling envious, and as always, and as always, we'll discuss some practical tools for transforming envy into personal growth and stronger connections.

PodcastMultiamoryDecember 17, 2024jealousy, envy

460 - Multiamory Presents: Navigating Jealousy in Non-Monogamy (Multiamory’s Interview on Better in Bed with Sara Sense)

Today's episode is an interview we did with Sara Sense of the Better in Bed podcast about jealousy and navigating it in the context of relationships and non-monogamy.

Sara Tang is a certified sexologist and coach based in Hong Kong. She believes that sex is a skill and everyone can learn how to get better in bed. She is most passionate about helping people who had a limited sex education or culturally conservative upbringing feel more connected and confident with their sexuality.

She started her platform Sarasense to provide tools and resources for people to get better educated about all aspects of sex and sexuality. Her podcast Better in Bed aims to normalize the conversations we have around sex, and reaches global audiences in over 88 countries. It was recently featured as one of the Best Sex Podcasts in Esquire and The Guardian. Find her on Instagram and Facebook @hellosarasense and check out her online course here.

PodcastMultiamoryFebruary 20, 2024Better in Bed, Sara Sense, Sara Tang, jealousy, guest, interview

428 - Unraveling Jealousy in Five Steps with Dr. Joli Hamilton

Are you ready to talk about jealousy again?! For today's episode we're joined by Dr. Joli Hamilton, the relationship coach for couples who color outside the lines. She is also a research psychologist, TEDx speaker, best-selling author, and AASECT certified sex educator. Joli also co-hosts the Playing with Fire podcast with her anchor partner, Ken. Joli’s been featured in The New York Times, Vogue, and NPR. She’s spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibility. Joli helps people create non-monogamous partnerships that are custom-built for their authentic selves, no more shrinking, pretending, or hiding required.

Today, Joli is here to talk about her research on jealousy and go in depth about her five step approach to managing it, along with some of her other tools and experience she uses in her practice. Find more about her on Instagram, TikTok, and Twitter at @drjoli_hamilton, and at www.JoliQuiz.com and www.theyearofopening.com.

PodcastMultiamoryJune 27, 2023jealousy, handling jealousy, psychology, research, qualitative research

395 - 50 Ways to Handle Jealousy - Part 2

Part 2 of 50 Way to Handle Jealousy is here! Today's episode covers the final 24 out of the 50 tools we're discussing this series. Last week we discussed tools for your brain and tools for your body, and today the tools we're going over fall into the categories of tools for your relationships, and tools for your heart and soul.

PodcastMultiamoryOctober 25, 2022jealousy, handling jealousy

394 - 50 Ways to Handle Jealousy - Part 1

Everyone in a consensually non-monogamous relationship gets asked the question, "How do you deal with the jealousy?" Even people who have practiced non-monogamy for years or who never expected to experience jealousy do experience it, so it's worth building a toolkit for yourself to break into when you need it. In today's episode we're discussing it by going over 26 different tools that can be used to help us handle jealousy when it comes up (and it will come up!). Stay tuned for next week when we'll go over the remaining 24!

PodcastMultiamoryOctober 18, 2022jealousy, tools, handling jealousy, emotions, emotional intelligence

225 - Real Relationship Talk with Lola Phoenix

We’re joined by writer Lola Phoenix to talk about common non-monogamy advice and how it can sometimes miss the mark.

PodcastMultiamoryJune 18, 2019Lola Phoenix, jealousy, advice, experience, toxic parenting

223 - Six Secretly Toxic Relationship Behaviors

Today we’re having a round table discussion with our friend Ben Day about six relationship behaviors that most people think are normal (or even romantic) that are actually toxic and destructive to your relationships. We also get deep and share some of our personal struggles with these behaviors in our own pasts.

Podcast, PopularMultiamoryJune 4, 2019toxic, romance, Mark Manson, jealousy

215 - The Science of Jealousy

Jealousy happens in all types of relationships, but what is the science behind why we respond with jealousy to certain situations. What happens inside our bodies and minds in response things that make us feel jealousy. On this episode, we explore the scientific why behind jealousy and some ways to combat that internal struggle.

Podcast, Beginners GuideMultiamoryApril 9, 2019jealousy, science

191 - Toxic Relationships

Are your relationships a dumping ground for toxic waste?

152 - Polyamory: The Most Common Questions

If you're a polyamory beginner, or if you need some help answering the questions your relatives are throwing at you, check it out!

146 - Fear of Missing Out

This week we talk about the different pieces of FOMO (fear of missing out), how social media can make it worse and how to beat it.

PodcastMultiamoryNovember 21, 2017fomo, fear, missing out, jealousy, anxiety, social media, facebook, envy, insecurity

140 - The Jealousy Survival Guide (with author Kitty Chambliss)

This week we're speaking with Kitty Chambliss, coach, speaker, and author of the soon to be released Jealousy Survival Guide. Kitty shares with us the lessons she's learned as a polyamorous person who still struggles with jealousy and offers her insight and techniques for managing jealousy as it occurs in the moment with grace, ease, and compassion.

PodcastJase LindgrenOctober 10, 2017jealousy, insecurity, mindfulness, Kitty Chambliss, emotional management, fears

138 - Conscious Monogamy

What is conscious monogamy? The term gets thrown around on many polyamory and non-monogamy blogs, but there isn't really a set definition for it. This week, we examine the nature of being conscious in one's relationships, whether you're monogamous or not. In contrast, we also highlight a few of the unhealthy forms of traditional monogamy, and ways to bring these qualities of consciousness into a monogamous relationship.

129 - Multiamory Answers Your Questions (Vol. II)

This week we are talking about...you! That's right, this week the Multiamory crew tackles the questions that our listeners left on the Multiamory voicemail line. If you want to have a question answered on the air, you too can leave a voicemail for us at 678-MULTI-05.

PodcastJase LindgrenJuly 25, 2017jealousy, exes, STIs, gonorrhea, sexual health, falling in love, rules, casual relationships

110 - Deconstructing Jealousy

We talk a lot about jealousy in the polyamory scene -- how to manage it, how to de-program it, how to communicate with your partners about it. But in this episode, we are going to be deconstructing jealousy -- categorizing specific triggers and their causes. If you have the tools to identify your jealousy triggers, it can open up a lot more happiness and freedom in your relationships.

Podcast, Beginners GuideJase LindgrenMarch 14, 2017jealousy, veto, hierarchy, beginnersguide

94 - Multiamory has Group Sex with Billy Procida

This week we welcome very special guest Billy Procida, host of The Manwhore Podcast: A Sex Positive Quest for Love. We dig into all kinds of topics in this one: sex positivity, sex party etiquette, being a single hetero man in the swinging scene, quick fixes for handling jealousy at a play party, and just a little bit about butt stuff.

PodcastJase LindgrenNovember 22, 2016sex, group sex, play party, swinger, jealousy, consent, etiquette, sex positivity, sex negativity

86 - Sustainable Relationships

Sustainability means making decisions that address the needs of the present without compromising the needs of the future. The term is most often applied to environmental policy, but how does the concept of sustainability apply to relationships? Are poly relationships more sustainable than monogamous ones?

PodcastMultiamorySeptember 27, 2016sustainability, long-term, commitment, decisions, jealousy, flexibility

82 - Multiple Attachment Styles for Multiple Partners

This week we are discussing the theory of attachment in adults. That may sound daunting, but it's actually quite simple. Your individual attachment style is how you react when a particular relationship experiences separation, threat, or pressure. Some people react by becoming clingy and impulsive, and others react by pushing the other person away. In this episode we discuss the four main categories of attachment style, and how these may manifest differently in multiple relationships.

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