Posts tagged non-monogamy
493 - But What if I Want the Relationship Escalator?
493 - But What if I Want the Relationship Escalator?

Today, we're discussing the relationship escalator, which is often criticized in non-monogamous spaces. However, some non-monogamous folks may want the same milestones and journey that the relationship escalator provides, so today we're talking about what can happen if you're someone who wants to move up the escalator with a partner or partners. We'll be going over some pros and cons of the relationship escalator, some research about how quickly people tend to escalate in relationships, and how to navigate your journey if the relationship escalator is something you want in your life.

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PodcastMultiamoryrelationship escalator, polyamory, non-monogamy, escalating
416 - Neurodiversity and the Benefits and Challenges of Non-Monogamy (with author Alyssa Gonzalez)
416 - Neurodiversity and the Benefits and Challenges of Non-Monogamy (with author Alyssa Gonzalez)

We're so excited to be joined by author Alyssa Gonzalez for today's episode! She is the author of Non-monogamy and Neurodiversity, which was published in February 2023.

Alyssa is a biology Ph.D., professional speaker, and writer. Her fiction uses science-fiction and fantasy elements to explore social isolation, autism, gender, trauma, and the relationships between all these things. She writes at The Perfumed Void (the-orbit.net/alyssa), on the subjects of biology, history and her experiences as an autistic ex-Catholic Hispanic transgender immigrant to Canada. She has also written a book about polyamory from a neurodivergent perspective. She lives in Ottawa, Canada with a menagerie of pets.

Today, Alyssa discusses her writing process and journey with us, traits of neurodiversity that make non-monogamy easier and more difficult respectively, stigma and tropes around neurodivergence, and more!

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PodcastMultiamoryneurodiversity, neurodivergent, autism, Alyssa Gonzalez, non-monogamy, polyamory
413 - Gay and Polyamorous Representation with Frank Smith
413 - Gay and Polyamorous Representation with Frank Smith

This week we're joined by a very special guest, Frank Arthur Smith, a queer writer/director/actor/producer originally from Boston, Massachusetts. His LGBTQIA+ comedy series, Open To It, in which he stars, writes, directs, and Executive Produces, was an Official Selection of festivals including: Outfest, where it received two special encore screenings; Rio LGBTQIA+ Film Festival, where it was the opening night film; Wicked Queer: Boston’s LGBTQIA+ Film Festival, where it won the Audience Award for Best Comedy Short; as well as the inaugural Gay Binge Film Festival, where it won the Special Jury Prize for Best Performance.

Today, Frank discusses normalizing non-monogamy, sex positivity, and the creation of his queer comedy web series, Open To It, which you can learn more about at www.opentoitseries.com.

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PodcastMultiamorynon-monogamy, webseries, web series, queer, film, representation, sex positivity
378 - The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy with Lola Phoenix
378 - The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy with Lola Phoenix

Today, Lola Phoenix rejoins us to discuss their new book, "The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy," which was published June 21st, 2022.
Lola Phoenix is an American born writer living in Stockholm, working within digital marketing while trying to find an agent to represent their science fiction work. The last time they were on the show was in 2019 for episode 225.

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PodcastMultiamoryLola Phoenix, books, new book, non-monogamy, anxiety
356 - Open: Non-monogamy and Sexual Liberation (with author Rachel Krantz)
356 - Open: Non-monogamy and Sexual Liberation (with author Rachel Krantz)

This week we are joined by journalist and Bustle founding editor Rachel Krantz to talk about her new book, Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation, and Non-monogamy. Rachel goes into depth about sexual liberation, feminism, gender, abusive dynamics, spirituality, and more during this comprehensive look at her newest work. Visit Rachel's website at www.racheljkrantz.com to learn more about her and her writing or to order Open.

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PodcastMultiamoryRachel Krantz, non-monogamy, polyamory, new book, book, author, journalist, spirituality, liberation, sexual liberation, memoir
310 - Polyamory Reminders with Evita Sawyers
310 - Polyamory Reminders with Evita Sawyers

This week we welcome onto the show Evita "Lavitaloca" Sawyers, non-monogamy coach, speaker, educator, and creator of “Today’s Polyamory Reminder,” as well as subject of the groundbreaking documentary "Poly-Love." Evita answers some of our questions about her polyamorous journey and "Today's Polyamory Reminder," as well as her concept of polyamory and how it has changed.

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PodcastMultiamoryEvita Sawyers, polyamory, guest, non-monogamy
220 - Secrecy vs Privacy
220 - Secrecy vs Privacy

This is a big question that comes up in non-monogamy, especially when it comes to talking about other partners to one another. So what is the difference between privacy and secrecy. Is there really anything that we should be hiding from our partner? What about power dynamics. Who decides what should be private and what shouldn’t be? What is mine to share? We talk about mental health, STI status, personal boundaries and other relationship dynamics where these questions come into consideration.

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PodcastMultiamorypolyamory, polyamorous, non-monogamous, non-monogamy, relationship advice, privacy, secrecy, boundaries
219 - Labels By Any Other Name
219 - Labels By Any Other Name

Millennials don’t do labels these days or do they? Some folks despise labels while others live and die by them. Today we describe labeling the holy trinity - Sexuality, Gender and Relationship Styles. We describe our experiences and difficulties with labeling our own individual selves and how those labels have changed or even evolved over time. 

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PodcastMultiamorypolyamory, polyamorous, non-monogamous, non-monogamy, relationship advice, labels, labeling, sexuality, gender, relationship styles
217 - Commitment in Non-Monogamy
217 - Commitment in Non-Monogamy

Commitment is so often misunderstood when it comes to non-monogamy. We discuss definitions of commitment and identifying the traditional markers of commitment we've all grown up with. We realize that it can be difficult defining what it means exactly within the confines of non-monogamy as it doesn't necessarily fit the stereotypical mold (but that is nothing new!). Infidelity seems to be the final end all be all when it comes to breaking common commitment rules in monogamous relationships so what are those rules in non-monogamy? In this episode, we get to the bottom of what commitment means in non-monogamy and how to clearly define what commitment is in your relationship. We also learn a brand new term - sociosexuality and how that might apply to you!

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PodcastMultiamorypolyamory, polyamorous, non-monogamous, non-monogamy, relationship advice, commitment, commitment phobia, sociosexuality
216 - What is Emotional Support?
216 - What is Emotional Support?

So what exactly is emotional support. How do you ask for it? How do you go about learning what kind of emotional support that you need. What kind does your partner need? Even not knowing what kind of support you need in the moment and admitting it can go a long way! On this episode, we explore what emotional support is, what it is not and learning what you need emotionally from a partner. We even cover co-dependence or emotional negligence in a relationship. 

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PodcastMultiamoryemotional support, polyamory, non-monogamy, codependency
213 - Relationship Goals
213 - Relationship Goals

RelationshipGoals - No, we're not chatting about the infamous Instagram hashtag. On this episode, we take a trip on the relationship escalator. What does your relationship escalator look like? Does it match your partner's? What happens when you aren't sure? Do those expectations ever change?Sometimes we think we have certain expectations, achieve them and realize it wasn't what we wanted at all. So many questions but what is most important is discovering what your personal relationship goals truly are.

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PodcastMultiamorypolyamory, polyamorous, relationship advice, relationship tips, non-monogamous, non-monogamy, relationship goals, relationship escalator
212- Relationship Baggage
212- Relationship Baggage

Get ready for the travel metaphors! They will be plentiful! We've covered this before in a previous episode, but we think it's time to tackle this subject again. In this episode, we talk about baggage, but not neccessarily all the bad stuff. We talk about evaluating your own personal baggage and what you bring to a relationship. Are you carrying around past experiences that are influencing your future ones? Are you participating in Transference? Is this good or bad? We unpack some strategies on how you can learn to recognize your own baggage, claim it and figure out if it should stay or go. 

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PodcastMultiamoryrelationship baggage, polyamory, emotional baggage, non-monogamy, non-monogamous, baggage
208 - Failure is an Option
208 - Failure is an Option

Failure is always an option, but it doesn't have to be the end of the world. We hear about failure quite a bit when it comes to schooling and even jobs/career but failure doesn't always get talked about in regard to relationships. It seems to be a dirty word when it comes to relationships because folks can feel ashamed or don't want to drudge up the past. Failure can be scary but avoiding it altogether shouldn't be the ultimate goal. It can sometimes prevent someone from taking action or pursuing a relationship because of the fear of failure. On today's episode, we talk all about failure and how failure can be a part of growth.

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PodcastMultiamorypolyamory, failure, non-monogamy