Today we're discussing conflict spirals, or what happens when you're arguing with a partner and it's no longer productive, you're exhausted, and you just want things to be over with. We're talking about how to stop that spiraling conflict, soothe yourself, and get back to a place where you can co-regulate with your partner instead of getting trapped in the same spiral again and again.
Read MoreThis week we're looking at conflict in relationships, what you can do to make sure conflict isn't negatively affecting your relationship, some research on it and some ways we can apply these lessons to our everyday lives, whether that's in a romantic relationship or another type of relationship. We'll be looking at some common patterns of unhealthy conflict, some specific research studies on it, and some actionable takeaways to improve how we can do better when engaging in conflict.
Read MoreHow do you even begin to pitch RADAR check-ins to a partner? What if you have a big fight or disagreement surrounding a RADAR? This episode is all about troubleshooting when you're running into issues regarding relationship check-ins!
Read MoreRelationships such as triads and quads which contain more than two people are largely disputed, discussed, and sometimes practiced in polyamory. Many people have had bad experiences with them while others love them, so this episode is going over some common conflicts people run into with three-person (or more) relationships as well as some challenges that may be a little more prevalent than in two-person dyads.
Read MoreGhosting has become quite a common way to end a relationship or prevent one from starting these days. On this episode, we're exploring why people ghost, the positives and negatives of ghosting, how to react if you've been ghosted, and how to fight the urge to ghost others.
Read MoreThis week is part 2 of our series on shame, which covers shame specifically around nontraditional and polyamorous relationships, healthy vs. unhealthy shame (not to be confused with healthy shaming), and countershaming.
Read MoreThis week we're kicking off a two-part series on shame in relationships: where it comes from, why we feel it, how it can affect our relationships (especially nontraditional ones), and ways to deal with feeling it to counteract its effects.
Read MoreGiving and receiving apologies can be a lot harder than it sounds; there's more nuance than a simple "I'm sorry." This week, we're discussing how to properly receive and offer apologies, as well as briefly covering boundaries, empathy, and unburdening guilt. In addition, we're sharing some advice from Dr. Karina Schumann, a psychology professor at the University of Pittsburgh who studies conflict resolution.
Read MoreWe’re talking about “pursuit and withdrawal,” a common behavioral pattern we see crop up in relationships when the people involved are trying to process disagreements and conflict. We’ll be identifying exactly how pursuers and withdrawers behave, and some steps you can take to prevent falling into this pattern when you have issues or conflict within a relationship.
Read MoreNo one wants a relationship full of drama...or do they?
Read MoreLearn how switch-tracking, bids, and micro scripts can take your relationship communication to the next level.
Read MoreConflict and disagreements are unavoidable in relationships, but they don't have to cause pain, negativity, or destruction. In this episode we cover a collection of tools to use before, after, and during fights you have with your partner in order to find constructive resolution and reconection.
Read MoreLong-term relationships can be fertile ground for wonderful things like deep bonding and silly in-jokes. But they can also come with their fair share of old hurts, repetetive arguments, and growing resentment. If you find your partner holding the past against you, feeling hurt and upset even after you've apologized for something in the past, or if you find yourself resenting your partner in the present for old hurts in the past, then there may be some unhealed wounds in your relationship. In this episode, we cover strategies for both partners to support each other in a journey of healing and acceptance in order to release and heal old wounds.
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