We're back with another full-length Q&A episode answering questions from our supporters on Patreon. For today's episode, we'll be discussing what to do when you're in love with someone who hasn't disclosed that you're in love to their nesting partner, getting clarity on why you might want additional partners, and how to stay friends with an ex who has hurt you badly in the past.
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Today, Dr. Marie Thouin is back to talk about compersion and her new book on the subject.
Dr. Marie Thouin is a Mindful Dating & Relationship Coach who supports people of all backgrounds and relational orientations to create intentional and vibrant love lives. She is a leading expert on the topic of compersion and the author of the groundbreaking book, "What is Compersion? Understanding Positive Empathy in Consensually Non-Monogamous Relationships.” Marie has published seminal research studies, the first-ever encyclopedia entry on compersion, and is the creator of www.WhatIsCompersion.com, a popular website that features her research, blogs, and other resources on compersion. She has been featured in several magazines and podcasts, including ELLE, the Savage Lovecast, and Multiamory.
Check out Marie’s new book here!
Read MoreToday, we're talking about fear, specifically how it can affect our relationships and what happens when we lead with fear. We're going to discuss fear and what it means to lead with it in a relationship, as well as some ways we can consciously move away from being led by fear to have happier, more fulfilling connections.
Read MoreJoin us today for a very special discussion with Todd Baratz. Todd is a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist whose innovative approach to mental health and relationships has established him as a leading figure in his field. In addition to his clinical practice, Baratz is a prolific writer and speaker. His insights are regularly featured in various media outlets, where he discusses topics ranging from romantic relationships to individual mental wellness. He lives in New York City and Los Angeles. Learn more on Instagram under his handle @YourDiagnonsense.
Visit his website at toddbaratz.com and to order his new book, How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind.
Read MoreThis week we have a throwback episode going back six years ago to when we discussed three powerful communication tools to strengthen your relationships: switchtracking, bids, and microscripts. We're going to explore each of these concepts, provide examples of each, and talk about some practical and actionable tips to help you use them to foster better communication in your relationships.
Read MoreThis week we're talking about breaking up again, specifically about the process of grieving a breakup through the lens of the five stages of grief. Long relationships in particular can have difficult breakups and it can be hard to know where to turn. We're going to explore the stages of grief, healing, and recovery, and hope our musings can be helpful for people going through hard breakups.
Read MoreThis week's Q&A episode is circling back to relationship anarchy and how to navigate it when most people either don't subscribe to it or don't even know what it is.
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This week, we're exploring the difference between loving someone and liking someone. We're specifically discussing how it is we can love someone but also not like being around them very much, and if one feeling is more important than the other. We'll also be talking about how knowing the distinction between liking and loving can help us show up in our relationships, and as always we'll have some takeaways to help you navigate these distinctions.
Take the Love & Like test we talk about in the episode here: https://www.idrlabs.com/love-and-liking/test.php
Read MoreToday we're talking about what it means to "settle" in a relationship. We'll be discussing if it's okay to settle and what realistic expectations of a relationship should be, compromise, and whether or not we should hold out for a perfect relationship.
We're going to look at research and surveys about finding partners who meet expectations, weigh some pros and cons of compromising versus never settling, and how someone can know if they're settling or being too inflexible.
This week we're tackling a question about sneaky hierarchy, aka sneakiarchy. We're talking about how to recognize it in future relationships, how to recognize when you might be creating it by accident, and more.
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Read MoreToday we're talking about love languages, and taking a critical look at them to discuss whether or not they're actually as important as we make them out to be. We're going to go over some of the key assumptions behind the love languages and of course, look at what the research has to say. And finally, we discuss both the potential benefits and the possible pitfalls of relying too heavily on the love languages as a framework.
Read MoreThis week's Q&A episode is discussing couples' privilege and how to be cognizant of when it may affect interactions with other potential partners.
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Today, we're talking about feeling possessive over a partner, the psychology and science behind it, and how even when non-monogamous, possessive feelings can still arise and create challenges for us. We'll even be discussing some times when a little bit of possessiveness can be a good thing!
Read MoreThis week's question from our Patreon supporters is discussing initiating sex, foreplay, and mismatched communications.
If you want to submit a question to be answered on one of the extra Q&A episodes we're doing for the next few months, become one of our Patreon supporters at www.patreon.com/multiamory.
Nobody LIKES feeling uncomfortable...but today we're going to be looking at a few ways we sometimes avoid discomfort that may be making the problem worse instead of better. We're taking a good hard look at the emotions a lot of us prefer to avoid, how distractions and quick fixes aren't the best things to do all the time, and explore some techniques for reclaiming your ability to feel your emotions and improve your relationships.
Read MoreThis week's question for our Q&A episode is addressing mismatched desire during busy, long-term partnered life and being stuck in "practical mode."
If you want to submit a question to be answered on one of the extra Q&A episodes we're doing for the next few months, become one of our Patreon supporters at www.patreon.com/multiamory.
Today we're joined by Jeff Guenther, also known online as TherapyJeff! Jeff has joined us to talk about what he does, therapy, non-monogamy, and much more!
Jeff Guenther, aka TherapyJeff, is, according to him, the most handsome therapist on the internet and is an international treasure who made Portland Oregon cool when he moved there in 2005. Jeff dedicates his time to creating short videos for TikTok and Instagram, and hosting his weekly podcasts, 'Big Dating Energy' and Problem Solved.’ Honestly, we can’t believe he is on our show. What a blessing! Learn more about him at TherapyJeff.com.
During this mini episode, we're answering just one question from our Patreon community. Today we're discussing reframing relationships, de-escalation, and acceptance.
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